464 | The Power of Questions with Javier Amor

464 | The Power of Questions with Javier Amor

In this episode, Javier Amor joins Eric from New York City!  Javier is a real-estate broker and is also an Alumni Community member of ADHD reWired’s Coaching and Accountability Groups.  Today, Javier shares his journey through chronic pain, managing Ehlers-Danlos syndrome (EDS), and self-advocacy.  You’ll also hear how a curious mindset and the power of questions changed Javier’s life, and also how asking better questions led to saving his father’s life. 

Other Questions/Topics Answered in this Episode:

  • [00:01:55] Javier shares why he wanted to learn the skill of asking better questions
  • [00:05:29] “It starts with questioning myself.”
  • [00:05:51] “How can I communicate to the doctors to make them think without being confrontational?”
  • [00:10:56] The power of the pause, and “Is this going to be constructive, or is it going to ‘defeat’?”
  • [00:11:28] Using cues and the “point of performance” to act on new knowledge
  • [00:17:52] Javier talks about managing chronic pain
  • [00:19:08] Javier shares how he prepared himself to see his doctor with what he learned through ArC and the books he’s read
  • [00:22:09] Instead of asking x, ask y instead.
  • [00:22:50] Javier speaks about Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome
  • [00:25:26] An example of asking curiously vs. telling
  • [00:27:34] “This is my mission.”
  • [00:31:28] The importance of asking & advocacy
  • [00:33:26] “I do get stuck, but I don’t stay stuck.”
  • [00:34:36] “To change self-concept as an adult… takes time.”
  • [00:36:43] Eric & Javier share some final thoughts & words of wisdom

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