510 | Asexuality, Grief, and Community – with Emily Karp

510 | Asexuality, Grief, and Community – with Emily Karp

This week, Eric is joined by Emily Karp! Emily is a 33-year-old entrepreneur, asexuality activist, and fan-work creator!  She embraced her ADHD around age 30 and quit her tedious job to become self-employed as a funeral celebrant and memorial slideshow editor who crafts personalized funerals and celebration-of-life events for non-religious individuals.  Emily went through the ADHD reWired coaching program in spring of 2021 and became a peer mentor in 2022.

Emily is also one of the authors of the book Ace and Aro Journeys: A Guide to Embracing your Asexual or Aromantic Identity, and is a lead organizer of the Washington DC Metro Area Ace and Aro meetup group!


  • [00:01:39] Introducing Emily
  • [00:02:41] Diving into the start of Emily’s ADHD journey
  • [00:03:37] The stakes of getting an ADHD diagnosis
  • [00:04:47] Life as an administrative professional before treatments
  • [00:08:47] Burnout, becoming an entrepreneur, sleep struggles, and coaching
  • [00:10:30] The “why” behind becoming a non-religious Funeral Celebrant
  • [00:13:24] Helping others grieve and heal, family estrangements, memorial gatherings, and closure
  • [00:17:17] Grief to acceptance with ADHD
  • [00:24:07] The basics of asexuality and aromantics
  • [00:26:04] Nuances of ace relationships, significant others, attraction, and more
  • [00:28:25] Physical desire, libido, and other statistics in the asexual community
  • [00:30:44] A discussion on dysfunction, orientation, sexual trauma, and gatekeeping
  • [00:33:20] ADHD and neurodivergence in the Ace community
  • [00:42:07] The positive impact of community and relationships
  • [00:45:01] Emily’s facilitated sessions in the ADHD reWired community spaces
  • [00:46:54] Sharing more wins
  • [00:48:43] Emily’s work, website, and closing thoughts

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