In episode 539 of ADHD reWired, host Eric Tivers, LCSW, ADHD-CCSP, welcomes Vida Carey, a neurodivergent coach specializing in sex and relationships, who emphasizes comfort through humor and candid vulnerability. The discussion delves into the unique challenges of navigating sexual intimacy for those with ADHD, including overcoming societal norms, advocating for oneself, and understanding hyper- and hyposexuality. Vida shares her insights on redefining sex, utilizing intimacy menus, and having open conversations about one’s desires. Additionally, the episode addresses the importance of developing healthy communication practices in relationships and offers a humorous yet candid look into making sex a more comfortable topic for neurodivergent individuals. The episode closes with reflections on how neurodivergent couples can better understand and support each other’s needs.

00:00 Introduction to ADHD reWired

01:08 Meet Coach Vida Carey

02:36 Navigating Sex and Relationships

05:13 Understanding Kink and Communication

07:31 Advocating for Yourself in the Bedroom

10:16 Exploring Sexual Desires and Intimacy

18:33 Sex Rewards and Intimacy Menus

22:33 ADHD reWired Coaching Groups

28:38 Hyper and Hyposexuality in Neurodivergent Brains

30:44 The Reality of Life and Sex

31:48 Hypersexuality vs. Sexual Addiction

32:49 Exploring Relationship Structures

36:32 Navigating Intimacy and Communication

38:27 The Journey to Intimacy Coaching

41:41 Common Questions About Sex

47:51 The Importance of Communication in Sex

56:01 Final Thoughts and Resources

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