298: Getting Used to Success with Dusty Exner

298: Getting Used to Success with Dusty Exner

ADHD reWired is excited to welcome Dusty Exner to the show. Dusty is an ADHD coach, mother, and musician from Vancouver B.C. She was formerly the front person for the punk rock band Kill Matilda. Dusty is one of the founders of girls rock camp La Paz in Baha, California. She lives in a suburb of Vancouver with her husband, daughter Melanie Sue, bird Professor, and dog Hemingway.

Dusty discusses being diagnosed with ADHD, touring with her band and living in a van, and the fact that she is trying to get used to being successful with her coaching business. She tells us she is still interested in music, and they have talked about getting the band back together, but she doesn’t know what that will look like at this time.

She talks about being a mom, and all the struggles that you have to fight through with ADHD. Dusty chats about strategies to use when you feel that you are not present with your kids and how to practice self-compassion. Remember, it’s the little moments you get each day with your children that matter, take advantage of those times. 

If you are struggling with ADHD, your career, and your family, this is the episode for you. Listen in as Dusty lays it all out, how she handles it, and some tips and tricks to make it easier for you. You won’t want to miss this discussion so plugin, sit back, and get ready to be wowed.

You’ll Learn:

  • [03:16] Welcome to the show, Dusty.
  • [04:41] Dusty talks about when she was diagnosed with ADHD.
  • [05:09] What did he see that made him think you had ADHD?
  • [05:51] She talks about living in a van and touring with her band and dog.
  • [09:17] Dusty says she is trying to get used to the idea of being successful and talks about building her coaching business.
  • [13:16] She plays the banjo now but is still involved in music. She and her husband are talking about getting the band back together.
  • [15:49] Dusty discusses her husband and his background in music and her ability to raise money.
  • [17:46] She believes that her ADHD caused her to fail at music the first time because it was so hard to settle down to practice.
  • [20:43] Dusty talks about missing being in a band and how ADHD affected it.
  • [30:04] They speak about instruments and which one Eric plays.
  • [32:11] Eric tells Dusty about the song he wrote for the conference.
  • [34:52] Eric talks about a blog post that he read about having children and how difficult it is to make time for them.
  • [37:21] What strategies do you use to take the time to play with your kids?
  • [40:24] She discusses how she worked around being a new mom with starting her new business and everything else she does with ADHD.
  • [42:51] When you find yourself not being present with your daughter, how do you practice self-compassion?
  • [49:04] When do you feel successful with ADHD? 
  • [50:13] They talk about the book The Success Principles by Jack Canfield.
  • [51:28] Dusty chats about her degree in Anthropology.
  • [56:15] Is imposter syndrome real? Have you ever felt it?
  • [59:03] Dusty talks about how she coaches people and their relationship to money.
  • [01:01:57] Thank you so much for being on the show, Dusty!

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